: Any thoughts on a care package for a boyfriend stationed in Okinawa?
Yes!!! Clothes would be great because they’re expensive here and you can pretty much only get them at the BX so they’re the same as everyone else’s. Board shorts and tshirts would be ideal. If he likes to take baths get some bath bombs from lush to relax. Some pictures in picture frames so he can decorate his dorm/barracks and feel more like home. Gift cards would be good too. Ask him what kind of restaurants he has on base, so it’s like you’re buying him lunch. I know there’s Taco Bell, Dunkin donuts, and Pizza Hut at most bases here. If there’s anything that he likes that you can only get in your town or state send that because I guarantee he misses it. And just some of his favorite candies and so on, even if he can get it here, just so he knows you’re thinking of him. That’s all I can think of off the top of my head but I’ll try to come up with some more!
Anonymous: K I know this is a weird issue, but my boyfriend just sends me pictures and vids of his manly parts and it's now making me uncomfortable. I get it,I love that junk and the things it can do, but sometimes, I'd rather have clothes on and a normal picture or a sweet video. I don't want to hear about how I am good at making him horny all the time. Here and there, perfectly fine. Like every other convo, kind of kills the magic. I feel less attracted to him lately, and feel like a bad gf for it :/
If I were you, I’d bring it up to him! He won’t know unless you communicate with him, right? However, you have to be kinda careful on how you approach it, bc he could always misinterpret it as “you don’t find my goods attractive anymore” or something like that. They next time he sends you one, I’d just be like, “babe, while I don’t mind getting these pictures, it’s getting to be a bit too much. I love you for all of you, not just your fun bits. I’m. Not saying to not send me any, but only if I’m in the mood. However, I would love more normal pictures of you. I miss you and would love to see your face a little more often.” Or something like that. I hope this helps you!
: So I don't know if you guys remember this, but I recently left my sorority and my school (I guess almost a year ago at this point). Well when I first left all my friends were like "Yeah, we're still gonna talk all day, and when you come back we're gonna hang out" blah blah blah. Well I still go down there for football games cause I have tickets, but when I got I can't get anyone to hang out with me. Well I just got married, so my hubby and I got a house there because that's where he's stationed.
Pt 2. So here’s my question: I feel like since I don’t really have any friends there anymore, that I’m just going to be a boring wife. Like I don’t want to just go to work, come home, and that’s it. I mean I’m excited to be a wife! But I can’t just hang out at home all the time. My husband has all his friends, and they all do their own stuff. I’m just worried that all of this, and not having friends is going to make me depressed! Any advice?
Hey girl! Hope the married life is going well for you!
Even though they said yall would still talk, doesn’t mean they’d actually follow through all the time. If you moved out of the area, it’s really difficult to stay as connected with people as you did when you were there. Now that you’re moving back, I’d reach out to the ones you were the closest to and just start texting them, or ask to go to lunch or something. Just slowly ease yourself back into their world. If they still don’t make any effort to hang, it’s their loss! I’m sure you’ll get to know people there. None of this will happen overnight, but just stay positive and make the effort to reconnect!:)
Anonymous: I feel so unhappy. With my SO. With my friends, with myself. I don't know what's wrong with me. There's a couple guys at the store that seem really cool and we all talk, and I really want to just hang and get to know them cuz I consider them friends in a weird way but my mom said I'd look like a whore asking them, and I guess she's kind of right 😕 I really just need good friends I guess. I feel like I've had none since I've been with my SO. I'm sick of being lonely.
Honestly, I think that as long as your SO is cool with you being friends with those guys, then there is nothing wrong with it. There is not a thing wrong with people of the opposite sex hanging out platonically. The misconception that you’re automatically a “whore” because you have several male friends is awful. If you work with mostly males, or get along better with men, then obviously you’re going to bond with them. It is a matter of just being able to get out of the house and hang out with people! It is hard to just feel like you’re sitting at home waiting for a phone call from your SO, so you shouldn’t do it! Whether you hang out with those guys or not, you should try to get involved with a group of friends that you can occupy your time with. If you’re unhappy, you should take action and try to deal with it in a healthy way. Talk to your SO, he may understand better than you think. Also, if you’re unhappy with the relationship, you need to confide in him and try to work things out so that you don’t feel like this. Try to find at least one friend you can hang out with. Sometimes it is just a matter of putting a little extra effort into being social, and it can make a world of difference when you do and your relationships.
If things don’t get better, you should consider talking to someone about your feelings. I have depression episodes where I get like this, but mine are generally due to hormone fluctuations because of my PCOS. However, when I get those feelings I literally have to make myself get out of the house and go do something. It’s so much easier for me to just lay in bed and feel sorry for myself, but once I get out and even just go grab lunch with a friend, I can manage to make myself feel better. It isn’t always that easy, though. So, that’s why I say if it continues that you may consider going to a doctor to talk about it. Unhappiness isn’t a state of mind you have to live with. I hope that you start to feel better soon!
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